FROM RUPA WITH LOVE
By Rupa Doré
1)Off to the races
Jordan vs. Vincent
FROM RUPA WITH LOVE
By Rupa Doré
1)Off to the races
Jordan vs. Vincent
Chennai / 15th May ’18
UNBELIEVABLE BUT WE’RE 50 & COUNTING !
It’s unbelievable, but true that 50 years have
rolled by since that hot day in JAMSHEDPUR
at Madrassi Sammelani on 24th May 1968,
when the two of us tied the knot,with all the
hard work & blessings from our parents. In
our 3rd Generation of Dores, being the first
couple to have married (also first-born) has
its’ own responsibilities & rewards ! In a way
the two of us have completed a CENTURY of
partnership( Kuch Tere Dil mein 50 ; Kuch
Merey Dil mein 50, Zamana hai Burraa !)- ref
Geeta Dutt song from C- I- D (1956).
Over the years, it has been a Roller-Coaster
ride,at times breathless & at times trying for
us, with many milestones, places, people, &
opportunities – as also some hits & many
misses (puns intended) ! Perhaps it’s a case
of sheer survival ( meaning each other !).
Family and friends, as also people in general,
have always meant more to us than career
or tangible milestones…we’ve benefitted a
lot from the guidance of elders, care-givers,
teachers, mentors, friends & Gurus in our
lives,who inspired us to be what we are 2day.
We acknowledge, accept & cherish with
humility & gratitude all that we received and
continue to receive in life. In particular, we remember the love & care given by our parents, the DORE, NATARAJAN & TDN (short for TD Narayana Iyer) Elders/family members.
Our global family tree extends from Palakkad,
North Arcot (Vellore) & Mayuram to Irvine, San
Francisco, Dubai,Southampton,Dallas,Chicago, New Jersey, Mumbai,Jamshedpur, Seattle, Torrance, as also to Pleasanton, Pasadena, Puduchery,Bengaluru,Tucson & Panchgani.
In the elders circle,we’re grateful to Ammaji,
Appaji, Natarajan mama(whom we miss so)
and to Radha Chitti,Premchittappa, Gippy,
Rupathai & Babu Chittappa, Viji Periamma, Balai Chitti & Lalitha Mami ,whose blessings we seek ( and also advice, on occasions).In particular, we have to mention the trade- mark DORE humour, which keeps us smiling & going. In fact laughter & music have always helped us so !
In this journey of decades, we remember in our generation Ganesh-Kanchana,Sam-Vanitha, Bobby (Sr),Radha (& late Janardhan), Jaggi-Geeta , Suki – Shashidhar, Satisch – Suchitra , Srinath-Shyama, Sriram – Chithra, Ravi- Kanchana, Sukanya – Narayan, Paramesh – Baby, Rani – Ramakrishnan, Mridu – Shekhar, Aruna – Suresh, Ramanan – Chitra, Anandhi – Sethuraman, Dorai – Malini,Murali- Mythily, Sumita -Saroj (Roy) , Geetha- Chandru, Parvathy (& late Nana) , Mallika – Rajan, Nandu & Suresh – Priya, Hari – Sudha, Ramu – Vidya & Kumar- Vijaya, Ajita – Chander & Shalini ( the list goes on….)
We feel blessed to be reasonably healthy to enjoy some comforts & places;and that
itself warrants a celebration. We hope to
celebrate the next 12 months by visiting
places and meeting as many associates
& family members as we can, subject to
health and Divine Grace. In the first stage,
we’ve planned 12 days this month at West Coast of India at select resorts.Hope to send some pictures periodically.
Do keep us in your thoughts & prayers.
A short acknowledgement will also be
With luv & regards, Kartik & Lakshmi
Met my Vimala Atthai, a few days ago. She is Appanna Thata’s 89 year old niece – daughter of his second youngest sister, Bala (Balatthai to all the younger Dores).
She is Vimalatthanga to the Dores. She is a year older than Ramanna so that makes her our clan’s oldest living member!
Five photos too.
Suguna / Atthai
I realised last week that it’s been more than two years since I met Vimala Atthai. This is a shame because we live in the same city, Chennai and we have always been good friends. She is also my father’s only living relative from his generation. (I count the Dores as my cousins, not my father’s – though they are that. Those who do not understand this complicated and somewhat inbred relationship, go figure…or go to the family tree in the ToD archives). Most of all, she is a lively and warm person and a great conversationalist.
I called Atthai a couple of days ago. We were both very happy to talk to one another after such a long gap. We fixed a time to meet the very next day. Off I went and there she was, ready with her lovely and welcoming smile.
She has been suffering from a weak heart since 2006. A salt-free diet has made her very thin and frail. Probably because of osteoporosis, a few of her vertebrae have got fused as a result of which her spinal column is bent and painful. She also said that the bones around her left shoulder have ‘dissolved’ – ‘karanji pocchu’ . She gets up from bed only to go to the bathroom and to get a little exercise walking around the house or in good weather, in the spacious garden.
Her daughter, Pattamma, whose home is five minutes away, spends all her spare time with her. Vimala Atthai also has a 24-hour companion and help, a bright and friendly young Tamil girl. A young Bihari boy cooks for them. Atthai’s daugher-in-law Padmini, who divides her time between her son’s home in Philadelphia and her own home in Chennai with Atthai has thoughtfully made all these arrangements.
For all her illness, Vimala Atthai is as spirited and hospitable as ever. She even had tiffin, coffee and a gift bag filled with goodies ready for me (at just a day’s notice – I have no idea how she put it together so quickly). No complaints, none of the cynicism one associates with old age, just brimming with affection and goodwill, with eager questions about my family, my brothers, their families and my Dore cousins – even as she just kept on feeding me with Gokulashtami batshanams.
She asked me about my husband and my boys. When I mentioned that my younger son Nikhil and his wife lived in the US, in Seattle, she said with a big knowing smile, “Oh, Seattle!” I thought she was only being polite.
But she shamed and astounded me by adding, “I know Seattle, it is in the Pacific North…Padmini has a relative there, Dr Ramamurthy, with an American wife… Caroline Ramamurthy she calls herself. They used to have a house facing the ocean – I have visited them! Their daughter is named Kanti Caroline Ramamurthy!”
I was flabbergasted! (‘Pacific North’!!). I hope I have such a keen memory when I am 89, which is how old she is. At 68, I am often unable to remember names of places and people from six months ago.
I took some photos and told Atthai I was going to post the pictures and an account of my visit on the ToD. (Please do notice the photo of the goddess Saraswati in the backdrop in the photo of her and me. She was delighted to see it had figured in the picture).
This prompted her to take out a photocopy of a childhood picture of hers. (She knew exactly where it was among her many papers and folders). It was taken when Atthai was seven years old, in Hyderabad Sind. She added that Ramanna had given her the copy years ago.
She went on to tell me the back story to the snapshot. When it was about to be taken, her mother Balachitti (Appanna’s sister) decided to line her eyes with ‘maii’ (a traditional home made kohl made with castor oil soot). The little Vimala had never worn ‘maii’ before. Her eyes started to sting and tears rolled down her cheeks. Appanna chided his sister and told her to leave the child alone and went on to take the picture. “That is why I look so serious and tearful in the photo!” explained Vimala Atthai, laughing at the memory and her immense love and regard for Appanna.
My father Annaji used to say of my aunt Leela Chitti that she was such a good person that she was worthy of worship in a puja room.
I think the same can be said of Vimala Atthai. Such a zest for life, such unconditional love for people, such courage in the face of serious ill health, such genuine and all-embracing kindness towards everybody is indeed rare.
She has said to convey her love and blessings to all the readers of the ToD, especially the senior Dores. So here you go! Suguna Swamy
THE RETURN OF VIMALATHANGA
(LIVING LEGEND To TOD, OLDEST DORE ALIVE)
By Suguna Swamy
After my last visit to meet her and the last ToD feature, I dropped in on her again with my iPad to show her the article and photos online. She loved it!
She gave me many new interesting tidbits.
Notes on some of the photos
CHENNAI/ 20TH APRIL’18
2oth April 2018
Dear Karthik and Lakshmi,
What kind words, expressions and thoughts have been expressed by you , Karthik. Thank you and thank you both for always treating her with such respect that she always felt very good about her family and their treatment of her.
She is being sorely missed every minute of the day
20th April 2018
Very rich tributes my dear Anna.
She was very popular within family circles
THE TIMES OF INDIA. CHENNAI WEDNESDAY. APRIL 23.2014
Vimala Krishnamurti rarely steps out of her house on Eldams Road in Chennai, but the 88-year-old has been doing her physiotherapy exercises twice a day so that she can make it to the polling booth on Thursday. “I want to be fit enough to go there using my walking stick,” says Vimala, who has not missed casting her vote in any election since 1951. “I remember how excited I was about casting my vote for the very first time,” says Vimala. who first voted in Mumbai for Congress.
Vimala admits she is today confused (about which party to vote for). “I want a good administrator who will work for the people and the welfare of senior citizens and respect women”, says Vimala.
Taken on Mother's Day May 6, 2016. On her left is Geeta Rao Nyapathi. She is Ashwin's wife Sharda Modur's grandmother. She and late Vimala mami are great-grandmothers to Padmini's grandson.
Shalini Doré – Apr 17
And this morning we woke up to the news that Kanchana and Shashi’s mother, Jaya mami, passed away overnight due to pneumonia. It caused a second heart attack.
Ganesh Doré – Apr 17
Subject: Mrs Jaya Sitaram passed away a short while ago
My Dear PremChithhappa
Mrs Jaya Sitaram passed away a short while ago.
A pioneer bridging the path to modern life from rural Vellore. And a truly nice person.
She was 92.
Shashidhar is here.
Malavika is here from Los Gatos.. Jaideep from Torrance. ( Uma and Shyam also. They have left for Torrance.)
Kartik Doré – Apr 17
Chennai/ 17th April ’18
Dear Shashidhar & Kanch,
We’re sad & shocked to learn that
Jaya Mami is no more.Words seem
to fail us, for a lady who thought &
acted ahead of her times.She was
always composed & dignified, even
during difficult times & her own
ailments.We’ve had wonderful times
and conversations with her.We shall
certainly miss your ‘AMMAJI’.
We all pray for her soul.
Kartik Anna-Lakshmi Manni
(with Poornima & Sourav)
P.S. It’s a double tragedy that we’re losing
two worthy contemporaries on the
same day. We’re both going to Vimala
mami’s home at Teynampet shortly to
pay our respects.
Srinath Doré – 17 Apr
Dear Ganesh Anna and Kanchana
Shashi and Sukki
We are so sorry to hear the sad news . We pray that her soul rests in peace. We will always remember her as a lady full of energy and zest and am glad she didn’t suffer too much in her last days .
Srinath and Shyama on behalf of Prem Chitappa
Nandu Doré- Apr 17
This news took me by surprise for sure as Jaya mami’s most recent pics showed her up and about without any external aids.
Reminds me of my own troubled times when we lost my Appaji and Priya
manni’s father within days and I do share the pain.
Its a sad loss indeed and its their everlasting smiling, cheerful
faces is what I’ll remember them by.
Ganesh Doré – Apr 17
Two stalwarts from the 1920 Era
Suresh Doré – Apr 17
Dear Ganesh and Kanchana,
We are deeply saddened to hear about the demise of Jaya mami also known as Ammaji. We have met her a couple of times during Malavika’s and Brian’s engagement function at Madras Gymkhana in 2007 and Jaideep’s and Uma’s Meet and Greet function in Bengaluru in December 2009. We got opportunities to really know her well only during these instances since she had already migrated to the US.
She was a bright lady with a refreshing smile and always ready with a a family anecdote or two to build an instant bond of friendship. Priya also remembers her as an excellent singer doing several group bhajans as part of satsangs. It is amazing that both the matriarchs who passed away today, Vimala Krishamurthi and Jaya Sitaram were at ripe old age of 92 across the continents.
May their souls rest in peace.
Suresh and Priya
Kanchana and Jaya mami(partly hidden) watching Jaideep-Uma ceremony
( May 25, 1925 – April 17, 2018 )
17th April 2018 / CHENNAI
We just got the sad news that Mrs Vimala Krishnamurthy, w/o Late VG Krishnamurthy passed away a few hours ago, at her ELDAMS ROAD residence. She had been ailing for months.She is survived by her 2 daughters Ramaa & Rukmini( Pattamma) and daughter-in-law Padmini Balagopal.
Further details are awaited.
We pray for her soul. KARTIK-LAKSHMI
Rupa Dore´ – Apr 16
A great lady! May her soul rest in peace.
Famous quote from my father and Vimalathanga .When she got married and
was about to leave she asked Appanna to give her some “nalla buddhi”
and he said ” Just keep your own buddhi!”-That is all you need!
Thanks for the rare photos, Suresh. She was very pretty all her life
till the end.
Shridhar Subrahmanyam -Apr 16
A wonderful woman who was always smiling and our last link to that generation. My condolences to the near relatives. May her soul rest in peace.
Suresh Doré – Apr 16
k-anna, sad news indeed. She was the only north arcot link between my father and mother prior to their marriage. My condolences to the bereaved family.
Caption: Vimala mami, Padmini Balagopal(Vimala mami’s daughter-in-law) and Priya unable to decide on the menu at Creams Centre restaurant August 2009
Vimala Krishnamurthy and singer Parimala Gurumuthy share a quiet moment together in Saraswathi Akka’s centenary celebrations in December 2010 at Eldams Road
Shalini Doré – Apr 16
So sorry to hear this. Condolences may be sent to Rama Rajagopalan.
Satisch Doré – Apr 17
A great and graceful lady blessed with wonderful good cheer, mirth and laughter. Her Eldams Road residence was a must-unannounced stop for Babaji on our returns to Venus and the doors were always open. I have only good memories of my time with Attai and family, not just in Eldams Road, but also in Tarrytown NY with Padminiji and family who were kind enough to host me in the 80s for a brief visit. It’s a huge loss! Condolences to the family, may her soul Rest In Peace.
Raj Doré – Apr 17
Sorry to hear that please convey heartfelt condolences.
Srinath Doré – Apr 17
Sorry to hear Appaji and all of us send our condolences and we pray her Soul rests in peace
Sameer Nagarajan – Apr 17
So sorry to hear this. Our heartfelt condolences.
SHARAT CHANDER WINS AWARD AT AT&T
By Sharat Chander
For helping get 5G done in a hurry.
5th Generation of Mobile Wireless.
The next step to your 4G & LTE and such that you use on your mobile.
All due to your blessings!
Thank you, Ammaji, Mami (Mrs. Jay)& Mama (Dr. Jay).
Rupa Doré - 10 Apr
I am bursting with pride! Bless you !
Nandagopal Doré - Apr 11
I think you got the rough end of the stick.
I would not have settled for anything less than a Noble prize!
Good job regardless.
Novel idea, yaar.
But, it wouldn't be the Nobel Prize, it would be the No-Bull prize - haha!
On second thought, it would be the Full-of-Bull prize 😂
to do this thankless public service .
Pl convey my appreciation to him.
Here is the link to Chander’s CSR project.
There are photos (as well).
From the PM to senior CoC officials all authorities are candid in stating that the country’s Swachh Bharat objectives cannot be achieved by the government alone. Citizens and corporates have actively to support civic bodies in their efforts.
The new, improved New Beach Road area is an example of this new ecology. Rialto Enterprises, the residents of the neighbourhood all work in a spirit of collaboration and amity. There lies the success of the project.
The Thiruvanmiyur Beach CSR initiative was listed among the six most dynamic Swachh Bharat (‘Clean India’) citizens’ projects by Prime Minister Narendra Modi’s Office in 2015.
A team from the PMO paid a surprise visit to the area again in 2017 and reported that not only was the project alive, it had grown even more robust since the team’s first visit two years earlier.
Beside the second longest beach in the world, in Southern India, stands the tropical city of Chennai. Chennai generates 3,200 tonnes of waste every day.
Spearheaded by Chander Swamy, CEO of Rialto, the effort very soon gained momentum. A number of residents signed up voluntarily, contributing generously in time and resources.
In February 2015, Rialto Enterprises, a global partner of Procter & Gamble Co. chose the neighbourhood of New Beach Road, a densely populated area of one sq. km by the Thiruvanmiyur beachfront for its Swachh (‘Clean’) Beach project.
A total of 415 trees contributed by Rialto employees and the Forest Department were planted in 2015 in the entire area.
In December 2015, Chennai was hit by torrential monsoon rains, causing devastation not seen since 1918. Shock waves ran through the entire city and suburbs, including Thiruvanmiyur which being a low lying area was heavily waterlogged.
Plans were presented to the Corporation of Chennai in the construction of a new system and re-laying of the road. During the following monsoon New Beach Road was completely dry within a couple of hours of heavy rainfall.
A designated vendor zone and a weekend car-free beachfront was created in 2016, with the help of Chennai Police.
Residents contribute generously towards miscellaneous monthly expenses at an average of Rs.48,000 per month.
By Koratti Ramadorai
Email: Koratti Ramadorai
My brother Nagu’s daughter Deepa was born on march 3 rd at Vellore under the grand paternal care of Narasingha Rao & Saraswathi. Deepa might have derived the inner inspiration from both paternal and maternal side. Neeraja & her sister were well groomed towards musical lines, and so were her aunts(athais). Deepa started her liking for Veena at the early age while she was in 7th std. Her first Guru was her mother’s cousin sister living in Mylapore( Heart of carnatic music). Later due to Nagu’s transferable job in the bank, she could not persue until her graduation in 1992. Thanks to Mrs Jayalakshmi in West Mambalam, she resumed from where she lefy. Jayalakshmi maami and her husband Narayanaswamy maama were family friends to us for years . When her marriage was fixed with Arunkumar, it was a pleasant surprise and a wonderful coincidence that Arunkumar’s father and Narayansawmy maama were close friends from their college days.
Deepa continued her Veena learning after the marriage and also while she in Bayarea, USA where Arun moved in 1997. After their return from US in the year 2002, she started to look for a new Guru as Jayalakshmi maami passed away. After finding Dr.Shobana Swaminathan (her Guru till date) she continued further. Deepa’s husband persuaded her to take up academic course when Dr Shobana insisted her to do Masters in music in Veena from University of Madras. Dr. Shobana ‘s guidance and full encouragement and support from Arunkumar and Bharathi maami (Deepas Mother in law) she was able to successfully complete MPhil as well from Vels University, Chennai.
Her earlier school education was from Vellore/Dindigul/Chennai & Madurai. She completed her degree from Fathima College with destinction. The finer point is that she commuted to Madurai from Dindigul everyday, since Nagu was working as Lead Bank Manager in Dindigul.
More interestingly to share with all is that she did her School final by correspondence studies studying from Musaffarpur where Nagu was working between 1985-87 & writing her exam at Guntur, from Andhra University.
This made her to face any odd situations firmly at any odd times. After coming back to India to look after her father-in-law Kalyanaraman & Bharathi mami, she still continued her journey through Veena, thanks to her teacher Shobana and full support from her husband. She had joined many concerts along with her teacher & her group, performing at various vantage places. One of them at Vandalur where Sri Sri Ravishankar guruji of Art of Living convened huge MUSIC MASTERIO of all instruments including veena besides local artists in 2015. There was another gala program arranged by Lakshman Shruthi & group in 2017 where she played veena along with her teachers & students and this was covered by TV channels.
Very recently she travelled along with her Guru and others to Madurai on 26th Jan, 2018 & performed Veena concerts with 69veenas (to celebrate 69th Republic Day), at Madurai Meenakshi Temple.
They were well received by the devotees of the temple. The same was telecasted by SANKARA TV & interview conducted by them.
Deepa joined with her teacher Shobana under the trust founded in 2015 “KALASANGAMAM”, Centre for Classical Arts conducting Carnatic music exams both vocal and Instrumental music where she is also trustee. She teaches veena at home and also in a nearby college as a part time faculty in veena.
She has also presented several papers which were published and has written articles for musical journals.
Her article ‘Music Therapy ‘ in the book’ Samakalika Sangeetham’ is a noteworthy one.
It is worth mentioning that her first daughter Mrudula after her schooling in Chinmaya Vidyalaya & graduated from School of Social Work specializing Psychology, and currently pursuing her Research Masters in Cognitive NeuroScience from Rodbound University, Netherlands.
Her twin daughters Manisha/Maanasa also finished their schooling from Chinmaya Vidyalaya, now persuing degree courses Chemistry and Visual Arts in Stella Maris College as per their interests.
All the three are well trained in carnatic Music for more than 12 years besides Divine chantings, duly encouraged by her parents & Bharathimami.
Koratti family justifiably proud of her. Her lovable husband Arunkumar is indeed the backbone of her encouraging and supporting her to persue further in Veena & music. Besides attending to routine works at home, she continued her passion for veena by learning and teaching as well.
We wish her journey through music & veena continue and the best of all to her.